So I don't know why I thought this man would be any different Than any other. Men that I have dealt with in the past because, at the end of the day, they're all men. And. Their base instinct is bullshit. And maybe I shouldn't say bullshit because. They're men and they are driven off similar things. But it's kind of boring and obnoxious. Like, I don't know what. How I'm feeling right now. But it's not like a genuine love for the male species.
So I have been attracted to this guy for a While now. And
like, we got to talking, got to chit-chatting, and it. At first, he didn't like
show an interest beyond platonic, which was cool. That's fine. I respect that
because, you know, he had a girlfriend and everything, but he had drive and he
had a business that I was interested in. And., I wanted to be a part of that
and. When I saw. What he was doing, I was attracted to it because I've never
been around a man who was like. Motivated and driven to do what they want to do
and hit their goals in life. I've always managed to meet the ones who are OK
with the status quo. You know. I didn't feel like they were going to be a good
fit into my life. So, I broke up with them or I never took them seriously.
But then I met this person. We'll just call him Jamie. So, I
met him. A long time ago through a friend. And at first, it was a little weird
because she and he were dating and I did consider her like a friend for a
while, or at least an acquaintance and stuff like that. But in my mind, I
didn't really feel like they were a good fit because I know her. As much as
I've gotten to know him, he was a lot more. Educated So. It didn't seem like
they had a lot to talk about, if that makes sense. But that was not my
relationship, so I guess I can't really speak to that.
But Fast forward a couple years later. I'm still seeing him
around. And we have been. In the same social events, in the same areas at the
same time. So it seemed like a good. Time to, you know, approach him.
Especially since me and the girl are no longer close (If we were even close in
the first place)
So we have been getting to know each other over the past
couple of months. I've expressed interest in his business and I am interested,
I actually really do want to invest in his business, but I can't at the moment
because of other financial obligations that I can't seem to get out of, But as we've
gotten to know each other. He's mentioned that he has been dating someone and
he had. Been for the past year and some change. And he considers her serious.
But my question is, how can you consider her serious if you're out here
gallivanting with whomever? So normally
not my business, right? But. He seems to believe that, because he is doing “everything”
at home, he should be provided the freedom to do whatever he wants with whoever
he wants. When I asked him if his girlfriend shared the same sentiment, he
responded by telling me no, and he wouldn't bring it up because why would
someone put that thought in their woman’s mind?
But MY GUY! And then he sent me this video
https://www.instagram.com/reel/Cw2131urbYv/?igshid=NzVmZjhhN2QzYQ==
So, I agree and
disagree with the justification behind this video. One, I don’t think she is
talking about a boyfriend, I 100% believe she is talking about a husband in a
marriage. I also don’t believe she is talking about breaking the sanctity of
marriage and purposefully having multiple relationships or sexual encounters
with different women.
She is also very
old, so she was alive in the times when women could not survive without a man. So,
I understand her mindset. She was also alive during a time when groceries were
a nickel.
But I am not that
type of woman. If you are sleeping with other women, and you are taking care of
everything at home, why can’t I in turn sleep with other men if I am taking
care of everything at home?
His response was
that women are not prone to sleeping with multiple men. Which I guess is true? But
a lot of women after the age of 30 get a “sexual second wind” which their sex
drive increases exponentially. A lot of men in their 30s deal with erectile
dysfunction issues, so I am not sure if that information is accurate.
Anyway, that is
neither here nor there, I really just wanted him for sex, but he seems to think
I want a relationship or something from him. He gets upset when I don’t ask how
he is and that he always has to ask for sex.
Uh? Yeah? Because I
have gotten to know you and I realize that you:
a.
Don’t make any money
b.
Cheat on your girlfriend for whatever reason
c.
Willing to justify bullshit
I don’t know if it's
insecurity on his part or something, but I feel like he is run by money, and if
he had more money, he wouldn’t have to pimp himself out to women to get it. Whatever
it is I fell for the bullshit for a little because I was thinking with my
vagina, but now that I think about it. He can’t provide me with anything that I
can’t find somewhere else with someone who is willing to be faithful or at
least close to it.
Like, I seriously
doubt everything at home is okay, not that it is for me to comment on. But shit
doesn't make any sense to me. Are men hunters ALL the time? Does that mean no
matter who you decide to spend your life with you will always be sharing him with
another woman?
